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S2 E03: Betrayal is NOT a Relationship Issue

Why Betrayal is Not a Relationship Problem | Joy Recovery Radio
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the intricate nature of betrayal, emphasizing that betrayal is fundamentally an integrity issue with relational consequences—not a relationship problem. We dissect common misconceptions in betrayal recovery, focusing on the importance of addressing power imbalances, manipulated reality, and misplaced responsibility for healing. Through the lens of integrity, accountability, and trauma-informed care, we explain the critical distinction between insight and accountability and introduce the 'three I’s'—Integrity, Impact, and Integration—necessary for true recovery. Learn why undertaking relational work prematurely can exacerbate trauma and discover how to pave the way for genuine healing. Join us at Joy Recovery Academy for further educational resources on navigating betrayal trauma. Tune in and find clarity, safety, and integrity in your recovery journey.
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:32 Misdiagnosing Betrayal as a Relationship Problem
03:29 The Three Core Assumptions in Relationship Models
05:33 The Impact of Betrayal on the Betrayed Partner
09:04 The Importance of Integrity in Recovery
09:12 Introducing the Joy Recovery Academy
10:03 Understanding Intentional Manipulated Reality (IMR)
14:33 The Role of Accountability in Healing
16:54 The Three I's of Recovery: Integrity, Impact, and Integration
22:31 Final Thoughts and Summary
 
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S2 E02: DARVO - The Hidden Pattern of Manipulation (pt 2)

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) and its impact on betrayal recovery. This is part two of a two-part series where we explore the specific trauma injuries caused by DARVO, how it functions as integrity abuse, and the steps for real-time accountability. We provide a simulated example of a DARVO conversation and discuss ways betrayed partners can maintain their reality and emotional regulation. For those recognizing these patterns in themselves, awareness and accountability are key steps towards real recovery. Join us for this essential conversation on ending deception and supporting autonomous informed choice. For more resources, visit joy-recovery.com.
 
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:35 Understanding DARVO and Its Impact
01:41 Specific Trauma Injuries from DARVO
04:45 Simulation of a DARVO Scenario
08:19 Reflecting on the Simulation
09:33 Demonstrating Integrity in Conversations
12:54 Empowering Betrayed Partners
19:57 Encouragement for Men and Recognizing DARVO
23:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 
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S2 E01: DARVO - The Hidden Pattern of Manipulation (pt 1)

Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we tackle the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim, and Offender), a deeply damaging form of psychological abuse common in betrayal and deception scenarios. We'll define DARVO, demonstrate how it appears in real conversations, and distinguish between normal defensiveness and abusive DARVO role reversal. This episode aims to raise awareness and provide tools for both betrayed partners and those who might be using DARVO unconsciously. Join us for part one of this two-part series and learn the importance of ending deception, restoring reality, and supporting autonomous, informed choices. Subscribe to stay updated and explore more resources at joy-recovery.com. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:35 Understanding DARVO: Definition and Impact 01:26 Personal Insights and Experiences with DARVO 06:11 Recognizing DARVO in Conversations 15:13 Strategies to Counter DARVO 27:14 Conclusion and Next Steps
 
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Season 2 Trailer | Joy Recovery Radio

Season 2 of Joy Recovery Radio continues the conversation about integrity, betrayal trauma, and what real recovery actually requires. In this brief trailer, we share what’s ahead in the upcoming season, including deeper teaching on integrity abuse, trauma-informed accountability, and the long-term work of becoming honest, loving, and whole. Season 2 launches next week.
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Ep 47: Breaking the Pursuer/Avoider Cycle for Good

In this episode, Roy and Jacqueline discuss the common 'Pursuer-Avoider Cycle' that many couples face after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. They share personal experiences, practical strategies, and deep insights on how to break free from this cycle. Learn how to identify primary and secondary emotions, and discover actionable steps for both pursuers and avoiders to foster healing and connection. Tune in to gain valuable advice and find hope in your recovery journey. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:39 Personal Story: Remodeling Challenges 02:16 Understanding the Pursuer-Avoider Cycle 07:51 The Pursuer's Perspective 10:57 The Avoider's Perspective 25:07 Breaking the Cycle: Practical Steps 34:51 Conclusion and Weekly Challenge
 
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Ep 46: The False Self: How We Hide, Perform, and Protect - and How to Break Free

In today's episode, we explore how understanding the shadow and false self impacts our spiritual and personal growth. Learn about practical spiritual practices such as the daily examen, solitude and silence, seeking feedback in community, and confession. These practices help dismantle the false self and expose the shadow, facilitating healing and transformation. Join us as we provide deep insights and strategies to help you step into your true identity, rooted in love and anchored in a relationship with God. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:38 The Shadow and the False Self 04:11 God's Invitation to Transformation 05:03 Spiritual Practices for Healing 08:48 The Daily Examen 13:31 Solitude and Silence 21:33 The Power of Community and Feedback 29:17 The Practice of Confession 36:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Ep 45: Understanding and Managing His Intrusive Thoughts: A Guide for Couples

In this episode, we delve deep into the complexities couples face when recovering from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We explore the nature of intrusive thoughts, differentiating them from fantasies, and discuss why daily confession of these thoughts can be more harmful than helpful. Learn how to build healthful accountability, understand the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, and discover a path that fosters genuine healing and intimacy. Join us as we provide clarity, compassion, and tools for recovery that support both partners while building trust and safety in the relationship. Don't forget to subscribe, like, and leave a five-star review to help others find our supportive community!
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:37 Understanding Intrusive Thoughts
01:20 Daily Confession: Intentions and Impact
02:16 Clearing Misconceptions About Intrusive Thoughts
06:46 Intrusive Thoughts vs. Fantasy
12:08 The Harmful Cycle of Daily Confession
25:49 Healthy Accountability and Boundaries
33:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Ep 44: "Why Can't I Have A Normal Life Again?"

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the profound question, 'Why can't I have a normal life again?' after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We explore the deep-rooted longing for normalcy, the illusion of the old 'normal', and the true meaning of freedom and recovery. Whether you're the betrayed partner or the one recovering from addiction, this episode offers valuable insights and practical strategies for rebuilding a life of honesty, integrity, and connection. Join us for real stories, expert advice, and compassionate support on your journey to healing. Visit Joy-Recovery.com for personalized recovery coaching and supportive groups.
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:39 The Struggle for a 'Normal' Life in Recovery
01:50 Understanding the Illusion of 'Normal'
03:54 The Reality of Recovery
07:25 The Partner's Perspective on Betrayal
12:02 Building a New Normal Together
15:22 Redefining Masculinity and Freedom
18:41 The Path to True Freedom and Peace
22:20 Encouragement for Betrayed Partners
24:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 
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Ep 43 - Cost of Devaluing Women: From Objectification to Empathy

In this episode, we explore the complexities of healing from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Join us as we delve into the psychology and theology of objectification, the impact of addiction and betrayal on relationships, and practical steps for recovery. Learn how to rebuild trust, restore value, and find true intimacy. Whether you are battling addiction, healing from betrayal, or rebuilding your relationship, we offer insights and support to guide you on your journey. Visit joy-recovery.com for personalized coaching and supportive groups. 00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:37 Understanding Value and Objectification
04:58 The Psychology of Objectification
07:29 Theology and Recovery
12:35 Betrayal Trauma and Rehumanization
15:31 Practical Steps for Recovery
27:16 Revaluing Your Partner's Healing
32:48 Conclusion and Support Resources
 
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Ep 42: When Trying Fails - How Training Heals What Effort Can’t

In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of spiritual practices on healing and transformation, particularly for couples facing sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Host shares insights on how stories, relationships, and habits shape us, and explores the power of spiritual practices like prayer, fasting, and community. Discover how to train, not just try, for lasting change and inner peace. Tune in for practical strategies, real stories, and spiritual wisdom that can transform your life from the inside out. Subscribe, like, and review to help us reach more people who need this message of hope. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:38 Understanding Spiritual Formation
01:19 The Role of Stories, Relationships, and Habits
02:50 Replacing Old Influences with Spiritual Practices
04:50 Historical Perspective on Psychology and Spirituality
09:33 Deep Dive into Spiritual Practices
26:31 Practical Guidelines for Spiritual Practices
33:14 The Importance of Repetition and Patience
35:10 A Story of Lifelong Spiritual Practice
40:30 Conclusion and Invitation
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