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Ep 31: Breaking the Chains of Self-Deception

Breaking the Chains of Self-Deception: Healing After Infidelity | Joy Recovery Radio
Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep into the role of self-deception in addiction, especially related to sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We explore how self-deception is foundational to addiction, the ways it manifests, and practical strategies to overcome it. Learn about the importance of self-awareness, feedback, and an intimate relationship with God. This episode aims to provide clarity, comfort, and new perspectives on your healing journey. Join us and discover a path toward genuine healing and hope.
00:00 Understanding the Heart and Self-Deception
02:49 Biblical Perspective on Self-Deception
04:37 Practical Examples of Self-Deception
07:07 Blame Shifting and Its Impact
10:56 Cycle of Abuse and Upcoming Webinar
12:05 Justification and Rationalization
13:26 Minimization and Denial
15:33 Shame and Sexuality
18:01 Breaking the Cycle of Self-Deception
18:20 Self-Awareness and Relationships
22:15 Reflective Questions and Conclusion
 
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Ep 30: I Was an Abuser - Here's How I Stopped

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss the critical issue of abusive behavior among sex addicts, through the lens of the Minwalla model and biblical teachings. We emphasize the importance of personal accountability and rejecting abusive behavior. Host Roy expands on how abusive behavior and addiction stem from the same root issue—a heart of pride—and explains how cultivating a heart of humility through daily practices and spiritual guidance can lead to transformational healing. Practical insights and personal experiences are shared to inspire and guide both addicts and their partners toward a lasting recovery. Visit Joy-Recovery.com for additional support and resources.
00:00 Understanding Abusive Behavior in Sex Addicts
02:06 Foundational Assumptions for Addressing Abuse
05:01 Common Misconceptions About Abuse
10:35 The Root Cause of Abuse: A Heart Problem
15:37 Transforming Pride into Humility
21:00 Jesus' Teachings on Power and Humility
25:46 Personal Testimony and Daily Practice
 
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Ep 29 - Healing Resentments: The Four-Phase Forgiveness Journey

In today's episode, we explore an excerpt from our Conscious Contact group focusing on the spiritual side of recovery. Learn from expert teachings, including a four-phase process inspired by Dr. Robert Enright and the teachings of Jesus, to identify, process, and work through resentments. We delve into exploring resentments, committing to change, the work of forgiveness, and achieving freedom from emotional prisons. Join us for this insightful journey towards healing and forgiveness. Visit joy-recovery.com for more resources and support.
00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio
00:43 Introduction to Conscious Contact
01:24 Understanding and Identifying Resentments
01:52 Exploring the Roots of Resentments
03:41 Differences and Expectations in Relationships
05:53 Valid vs. Invalid Resentments
07:31 The Three I's of Shame and Projection
09:54 Primary and Secondary Wounds
11:29 Committing to Forgiveness
16:10 Rehumanizing the Perpetrator
21:00 Giving the Gift of Forgiveness
24:56 Stepping into Freedom
28:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
 
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Ep 28: Is Lying a Co-Addiction for Sex Addicts?

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the intricate relationship between deception and sex addiction. Discover the science of what happens in the brain when we lie, the role of the prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and nucleus accumbens, and how chronic dishonesty can affect cognitive function and emotional regulation. Learn about the potential for neuroplasticity and actionable steps to rewire your brain for honesty and integrity. Join us for insights, strategies, and hope for couples navigating recovery from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma.
00:00 Introduction to Deception and Sex Addiction
01:54 The Neurological Impact of Lying
02:45 Key Brain Players in Deception
06:50 The Role of Deception in Sex Addiction
09:01 The Downward Spiral of Chronic Lying
13:40 Hope Through Neuroplasticity
15:45 Steps to Rewire Your Brain for Honesty
21:35 Harnessing Dopamine for Positive Change
23:46 Final Message of Hope and Summary
 
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Ep 27: (Minwalla Model IAD Series) - The Deception & Manipulation Playbook

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio, where we provide insights, strategies, and real-life stories to help couples heal after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. In this episode, hosts Roy and Jacqueline introduce a new series on the Minwalla Model's IAD Behaviors, diving deep into deception and manipulation. Discover how deceit, from bold-faced lies to gaslighting, impacts both parties and learn strategies to rebuild trust with radical honesty and accountability. Join us as we explore the path from pain to purpose, ensuring that you don't have to walk this journey alone. 00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio 00:46 Starting the New Series on IAD Behaviors 01:28 Deception and Manipulation in IAD Behaviors 04:50 Breaking Down Lying and Omission 06:46 Deceptive Tactics and Manipulations 09:22 Understanding Gaslighting 11:47 The Impact of Covering Up 14:28 The Trauma of Trickle Truth 18:11 Revising Facts and History 24:52 Strategies for Rebuilding Trust 26:20 The Path Forward: Radical Honesty 33:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 
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Ep 26: Relationship Rescue: 10 Essential Traits

In this episode, we discuss the top 10 key traits essential for rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships affected by infidelity. Join us as we share our stories, strategies, and insights on how to navigate the path of recovery together. From the importance of full disclosure to cultivating emotional intimacy and developing a shared vision for the future, we cover all the critical steps needed for healing. Subscribe and like our episodes to help spread this message of hope and healing to more couples in need.
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:54 Personal Gratitude and Relationship Insights
01:42 The Journey of Recovery
04:37 Full Disclosure and Safeguards
09:16 Rebuking All Forms of Acting Out
12:15 Building a New Relationship from the Ground Up
17:43 Commitment to Communication
21:20 Breaking Down Walls of Secrecy
22:18 Daily Acts of Care
23:24 Vulnerability and Prioritization
27:17 Building a Future Together
33:38 Individual Healing Work
 
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Ep 25: The H.E.L.P. Tool for Men - Unlocking Emotional Vulnerability

In this episode, we're diving deep into the critical role of emotional intimacy in relationships, especially post-betrayal. Join Roy and Jacqueline as they introduce the revolutionary HELP tool designed to help men cultivate vulnerability, create new neural pathways, and redefine masculinity. Discover practical strategies to rebuild trust, enhance emotional connection, and start a transformative movement towards emotional growth. 
00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio
00:41 The Importance of Emotional Intimacy
01:20 Understanding Emotional Intimacy
02:41 Challenges in Rebuilding Intimacy
05:28 Men and Emotional Vulnerability
08:33 The Power of Neuroplasticity
15:08 Introducing the HELP Tool
19:16 Implementing the HELP Tool
23:06 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
26:51 Closing Remarks
 
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Ep 24: Why Can't Men Express Emotions? And What To Do About It

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we explore why men often struggle with emotional attunement and how this impacts their recovery journey after betrayal trauma and sexual infidelity. Discover key insights into emotional intelligence (EQ), the 'man box' concept, and how societal norms influence men's emotional expression. Learn five main reasons men struggle emotionally and five actionable strategies to improve emotional intelligence, fostering deeper, more fulfilling connections within relationships. Tune in for practical advice, real-life stories, and expert guidance to help both addicts and their partners navigate the difficult path of recovery and healing.
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:48 Episode Introduction: Emotional Attunement in Men
01:02 Understanding Emotional Stagnation in Addicts
01:59 The Concept of Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
02:50 The Importance of Emotional Attunement in Relationships
04:05 Five Reasons Men Struggle with Emotions
04:14 Reason 1: Lack of Emotional Role Models
05:14 Reason 2: The Man Box and Masculinity
08:28 Reason 3: Emotional Transference in Sports
12:25 Reason 4: The Double Bind of Emotional Expression
13:35 Reason 5: Fear of Losing Control
15:14 Five Solutions to Improve Emotional Intelligence
15:19 Solution 1: Recognizing Emotional Awareness
17:30 Solution 2: Reducing Distractions and Embracing Solitude
19:25 Solution 3: Practicing Emotional Labeling
21:24 Solution 4: Lowering Your Emotional Shield
22:38 Solution 5: Embracing the Big Five Emotions
23:59 Encouragement for Betrayed Partners
26:46 Conclusion and Call to Action
28:40 Closing Remarks and Resources
 
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Ep 23: Healing After Betrayal - 12 Do's & 5 Don'ts FOR MEN

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss how couples can navigate the journey of healing after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We emphasize the importance of transparency, acceptance, and support, providing men with practical guidance through 12 essential actions and 5 critical mistakes to avoid. Our conversation draws on the expertise of Dr. William Clark, Dr. Ken McGill, Dr. Omar Minwalla, and Michelle Mays. Tune in for insights, strategies, and real-life stories to help rebuild trust and a new life together.
00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio
00:54 Introduction to Today's Episode
01:45 Guidance for Betrayers: The Big Ticket Items
03:45 The 12 Do's for Healing
16:02 The 5 Don'ts for Healing
21:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 
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Ep 22: Stephen Cabler (Part 2) - The Ultimate Guide to Disclosure Polygraphs

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this eye-opening episode, we explore the profound impact of polygraphs in the journey of healing from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Our special guest, Stephen Cabler, a renowned polygraph examiner, shares his extensive expertise and real-life experiences in polygraph testing for sex addiction recovery. Listen in as Stephen discusses the process, benefits, and limitations of polygraphs, and provides invaluable advice for both addicts and their betrayed partners. Whether you're dealing with addiction, betrayal, or both, this episode offers insights and strategies to support your path to recovery. Don't miss out on this deep dive into truth, trust, and healing. Subscribe for more inspiring stories and expert guidance. Visit joy-recovery.com for more support.