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Ep 21: Stephen Cabler (Part 1) - The Ultimate Guide to Disclosure Polygraphs

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep into the world of polygraphs for betrayal recovery with polygraph expert Stephen Cabler. Discover essential insights on preparing for full disclosures, uncovering the truth, and utilizing polygraphs as a tool for healing and rebuilding trust. Stephen shares his extensive experience, success stories, and personal anecdotes that provide hope and clarity for couples navigating the aftermath of sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Don't miss this thorough guide to everything related to infidelity polygraphs, and learn how we can support your recovery journey at Joy-Recovery.com. Follow us on Apple Podcasts, subscribe to our YouTube channel, and leave a 5-star review to help spread the message of hope and healing to more couples in need.
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:35 Special Guest: Stephen Cabler
01:19 Steven Cabler's Background and Experience
03:08 First Encounters with Polygraphs for Sex Addiction
05:29 The Emotional Impact of Polygraphs
13:14 The Role of Polygraphs in Full Disclosure
 
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Ep 20: "How Can We Ever Go on Vacation Again?" The Beach and Beyond after Betrayal

Join us for another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we dive into traveling post-betrayal and infidelity. Hosts Roy and Jacqueline discuss the challenges and strategies for safe traveling, sharing six essential lessons learned and a five-step process they use. Whether you're planning a beach vacation or navigating local events, this episode offers valuable insights into maintaining safety and unity within your relationship. Tune in for practical tips, personal anecdotes, and hope for journeying together again.
 
00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio
00:14 Travel and Recovery: Can We Go to the Beach Again?
00:56 Challenges and Sacrifices Post-Infidelity
06:53 Lessons Learned in Travel Safety
13:28 Creating a Safety Plan for Travel
16:59 Researching and Booking the Perfect Resort
19:51 Creating a Comprehensive Safety Plan
20:44 Navigating the Airport Safely
23:47 Strategies for a Safe and Enjoyable Resort Stay
30:17 Debriefing and Continuous Improvement
 
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Ep 19: Understanding the 7 Types of Love for Relational Recovery

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio. In this episode, we explore seven different types of love according to the ancient Greeks and discuss which ones are vital for creating a new, intimate relationship after betrayal. We delve into the characteristics and roles of Eros, Phileo, Storge, Ludus, Mania, Pragma, and Agape, and how they each contribute to healing and rebuilding trust. We also provide practical tips and examples to help couples navigate the journey of recovery and build a stronger, more honest connection. Join us to discover how to transform your relationship with these timeless principles of love.
 
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:16 The Impact of Betrayal on Relationships
01:11 Rebuilding a New Relationship
01:48 Understanding Different Types of Love
04:01 Eros: Romantic and Passionate Love
08:08 Phileo: Friendship Love
13:02 Storge: Family Love
15:54 Ludus: Playful Love
19:34 Mania: Obsessive Love
22:17 Pragma: Enduring Love
25:42 Agape: Unconditional Love
32:40 Conclusion and Coaching Information
 
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EP 18: Latest Research: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Method Works Best?

Welcome to this episode of Joy Recovery Radio! Today, we delve into groundbreaking research comparing five interventions for sex addiction recovery: willpower, mindfulness, awe, life meaning and purpose, and distraction. Discover which intervention proved most effective in reducing desire and increasing self-agency among addicts. Learn about meaning-centered recovery, the concept of existential vacuum, and practical tools to integrate meaning and purpose into your daily life. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion rooted in both scientific research and theology.
 
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:05 Overview of the Study on Interventions
01:36 Detailed Description of the Five Interventions
07:18 Results: The Most Effective Intervention
09:44 Exploring Meaning-Centered Recovery
24:48 Practical Tools for Meaning-Centered Recovery
32:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 
Research Article:  https://doi.org/10.1080/26929953.2023.2272613
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Ep 17: Is Sex a Need?

In this emotionally charged episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the controversial topic of whether sex is a need. Our host, drawing from expertise in behavior science, theology, and personal experience with sexual integrity issues, argues that sex is a desire rather than a necessity. This discussion is primarily geared towards men struggling with sex addiction, but it is not intended for those dealing with sexual anorexia. Join us as we explore core shame-based false beliefs, such as the notion that sex is the greatest need and the main vehicle for love. We also examine how these beliefs can lead to justification of harmful behaviors and the importance of redefining intimacy within relationships. This episode offers a fresh perspective that aims to foster respectful discussion and personal growth. Your comments and alternative views are welcome!
00:00 Introduction to a Controversial Topic
00:55 Setting the Stage: Disclaimers and Focus
01:52 Main Thesis: Sex is Not a Need
04:09 False Beliefs and Misconceptions
06:33 The Chemical Addiction Behind Sex Addiction
08:30 Rewiring the Brain: Abstinence and Recovery
08:57 The Problem with the Word 'Need'
10:28 Man Box Thinking and Entitlement
11:26 Cultural and Faith-Based Misconceptions
16:25 The True Purpose of Sex
19:48 Conclusion: Embracing a Healthier Perspective
 
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Ep 16: The Minwalla Model Part 2: What is Deceptive Sexuality Trauma?

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we continue exploring the Minwalla model by diving into Deceptive Compartmentalized Sexual Relational Reality (DCSR) and its impacts. Building on part one, we discuss the secret sexual basement analogy, deceptive sexuality, trauma on victims, and the next steps for both betrayers and victims. Join us as we delve into the unique form of trauma caused by deceptive sexuality, its parallels with PTSD and Complex PTSD, and the three phases of trauma as outlined in the Minwalla model. Learn how to process this extensive trauma and find healing steps for both perpetrators and victims.
00:00 Introduction and Recap of Part One
00:56 Understanding Deceptive Compartmentalized Sexual Relational Reality (DCSR)
01:31 The Secret Sexual Basement: A Deeper Dive
08:50 The Impact of Deceptive Sexuality Trauma
14:52 Phases of Deceptive Sexuality Trauma
26:46 Next Steps for Victims and Abusers
34:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 
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Ep 15: The Minwalla Model Part 1: Unpacking Deceptive Sexuality & Integrity Abuse

Understanding the Minwalla Model: Deceptive Sexuality and Integrity Abuse Disorder - Joy Recovery Radio Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio's new multi-part series exploring the Minwalla Model. In this episode, we delve into the concepts of deceptive sexuality and integrity abuse disorder, explaining how these issues result in unique forms of trauma for all involved. This educational content is designed to provide insights, especially for those in recovery or related coaching practices. We discuss the components of compulsive entitled sexuality, the societal influences shaping male behavior, and the profound impact this has on partners and family members. Please practice self-care while engaging with this material, and consider the advice to process this individually before discussing it in your coupleship.
 
00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio
00:51 Introduction to the Minwalla Model
03:20 Understanding Deceptive Sexuality
05:19 Compulsive Entitled Sexuality (CES)
06:59 Sources of Entitlement
10:58 The Man Box and Masculine Entitlement
22:04 Integrity Abuse Disorder
26:18 The Secret Sexual Basement
31:20 Sociopathic Behaviors and Deceptive Sexuality Trauma
32:53 Conclusion and Next Steps
 
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Ep 14: Are These Recovery Myths Holding You Back?

In this compelling episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction and recovery. Focusing on the concept of powerlessness, we emphasize the importance of free will and mental autonomy in overcoming addictive behaviors. Challenging the belief that addiction is an involuntary condition, we explore how personal choice and perspective shifts play a critical role in the recovery process. Join us as we debunk the idea that factors like genetics, trauma, or emotional distress force individuals to act out, and learn how belief systems influence recovery outcomes. Understand why quitting problematic behaviors hinges on being fully convinced that a life without addiction is the most attractive and fulfilling option. Tune in now to reclaim control and reframe your approach to recovery.
00:00 Understanding Powerlessness in Recovery
01:20 The Gift of Free Will and Mental Autonomy
03:01 Challenging Recovery Assumptions
04:08 The Myth of Loss of Control
07:02 Addiction and Free Will
08:32 Neuroplasticity and Habit Formation
14:24 Debunking Genetic and Childhood Causes
21:55 Learned Connections and Sobriety
 
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Ep 13: Why is He So Emotionally Distant? Inside the Mind of a Sex Addict

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the complex topic of emotional distance by exploring the mindset of a sex addict. Share in a personal journey to understand why intimacy is often avoided and emotions suppressed. Learn about Dr. Minwalla's concept of Integrity Abuse Disorder (IAD) behaviors and the fight, flight, and freeze responses. The episode also discusses how deeply embedded childhood survival mechanisms can affect adult relationships, offering insights into how emotional withdrawal can be unlearned through courage and vulnerability. Join us to transform emotional distance into emotional repair and forge stronger, more intimate connections.
 
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Distance
00:58 Understanding Emotional Withdrawal
05:53 The Freeze Response Explained
09:24 Childhood Roots of Emotional Suppression
12:51 The Cost of Emotional Suppression
17:17 The Path to Emotional Intimacy
24:15 The Challenge of Vulnerability
 
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Ep 12: The Relapse Map

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the crucial topic of relapse in addiction recovery. The discussion includes differentiating between relapse and slip, and the importance of recognizing and discarding the term 'slip' from recovery vocabulary. The episode introduces a 'threat detection tool,' comprising three concentric circles representing 'acting out,' 'acting in,' and various 'threats,' and how these contribute to relapse. Emphasis is laid on bottom-line behaviors, defining relapse, and understanding twelve intimacy-avoiding behaviors. Additionally, the episode outlines psychological, conversational, situational, and other categories of threats. A three-step process for post-relapse recovery is also shared, highlighting the need for radical honesty, intimacy with God, self, and others, and effective accountability. 
 
00:00 Introduction to Relapse and Slip 
00:33 Defining Relapse vs. Slip 
01:50 The Threat Detection Tool03:10 Inner Circle: Defining Relapse Behaviors10:15 Middle Circle: Acting In Behaviors16:23 Outer Circle: Identifying Threats
21:11 Recognizing Chronological and Technological Threats21:50 Understanding Emotional Threats and Shame22:42 Transforming Shame into Positive Actions23:48 Dealing with Resentment and Rejection24:44 Identifying Physical and Relational Threats26:05 Reflecting on Relapse and Prevention26:55 Steps to Take After a Relapse27:18 The Importance of Radical Honesty30:52 Embracing Intimacy with God, Self, and Others35:07 Understanding True Accountability38:30 Final Thoughts and Additional Tools
 
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